Mama bliss is amazing! This is what I call the state I was in during the first few weeks after giving birth. The time truly is magical. You will never see anything as beautiful as your new born baby and will spend hours just staring at them in awe. You may also be more lost than you have ever been in your life.
As we all know babies don’t come with manuals and are all different. Personally I do believe that all babies are like little sponges and will absorb the energy of their mothers, staying calm around my baby was a high priority. Now being calm can be a challenge if you have no idea what you are doing. A book I was given by a good friend really helped me. It is written by a British nanny, Tracy Hogg and is called “Secrets of the Baby Whisperer: How to Calm, Connect and Communicate With Your Baby.” Tracy was given the nickname, ‘the baby whisperer’ by a Hollywood executive after observing her work with her colicky newborn.
The book really reminds you to respect your baby, talking to them as if they fully understand and letting them know what is going on around them and what you are doing for them. For example, gently telling them you’re going to change their diaper before yanking off the onsie. The book also contains great lists of what different cries mean and how to understand your baby’s body language as well as sleep, feeding and play advice/routines. Unfortunately, Tracy Hogg died in 2004 of melanoma, and hopefully is resting in peace somewhere knowing that she helped millions of babies and mamas. So shout out to you Tracy and a big mahalo. I really appreciated your advice and so did my boys and hopefully a bunch of Maui mamas will too.
Below is an example from her book. This is how she reads a baby by their mouths/lips/tongue.
Yawn = Tired.
Lips pursed = Hungry
A silent scream, then finally a gasp and audible wail = Gas or other pain.
Bottom lip quivers = Cold.
Curls tongue at the sides = Hungry (the classic rooting gesture).
Sucks tongue = Self soothing often mistaken for hunger.
Curls tongue upward, like a lizard, not accompanied by sucking = Gas or other pain.
Image Credit: Janice Fransisco