With every new babe born each family has an opportunity to create meaningful traditions or rituals in their daily life. We can examine our daily doings and may thoughtfully make a mental map or rainbow guide of how we’d like to spend our time. As the spectrum of colors shifts with the movement of light and is infused with life giving water, so is each day we synergistically become parts to the whole, to reveal a family.
With our babe in arms we hear the mantra, “sleep when baby sleeps,” so as new mothers not only can we replenish our reserve of sleep diminished from around the clock nursing and feeding, but we also dip into the intuitive reservoir of our own dream world. This place feeds our spirits, comforts our worried minds and refreshes our worldview. These essential naps and downtime create a new pattern for us as adults. In the creation of this new pattern, we see the benefits of taking time to discern our other patterns and routines and decide if there are positive benefits for our family’s well-being and ourselves.
Creation of these meaningful rituals is the essence of what I call the spiritual path of the homemaker. Motherhood is very much a barometric journey of the family entity and homemaking can be a joy-filled time of bringing family together to make simple rituals that encourage balanced needs, positive long term trust in each other and empower our new selves as parents.
Feeding your babe can take on the same rhythm every day. A simple mealtime tradition can live long beyond the time spend eating together. By setting the table or spreading the picnic blanket under a tree we show each other and our community that this time together is a priority for this family, that sharing this togetherness is sacred not in a religious sense but in a whole spirit nature. The memories we create last a lifetime and can be recalled and shared with future generations.
Moving beyond the rhythmic or physical needs of eating, sleeping, working, playing or story time we can gauge what we need more or less of to hone a sweet balance. Is our awareness keen to healing or simplicity? Are we celebrating our accomplishments together? Do we feel kindness with each other or are our nerves frazzled beyond recognition?
As a growing family transitions into greater awareness outside of the home, we can be prone to the over scheduling, double-booking and tag team parenting of what a busy school schedule may introduce. We make play dates, plan birthday gatherings, volunteer for worthy causes and celebrate traditional holiday, all of which can and will overshadow our sweet time together. So our patterns shift and we stretch our collective souls. If the foundation we contributed to is rich with the rituals of our homemaking practice, we may find that we have a balance and can bear the growth and changes of the seasons because our essential homemaking spirit has been nourished by traditions that fed our collective needs.
Although there is no one size fits all pattern, advocating for your family can be a simple as letting folks know you always (try) to eat dinner together at 6:30 in the evening. When the voicemail picks up the third evening in a row, friends and family may begin to realize, understand and perhaps honor that at a certain time you choose to feed that part of you that makes your family close. It may even inspire our peers in motherhood and family-dom to create that boundary that buffers our families from the overwhelming vibrations of the outer world. For without the business outside the hive, how would we know the sweet honey we are capable of making together? And who else best to share it with but our sweet ohana?
Blessings on your path~
Image Credit: Monica Flinders