With the holiday season under way the craving for comfort is in the air. We prep our homes to reflect a warm and comfortable atmosphere. We spend hours in the kitchen to cook comfort food for those we love. We volunteer to help comfort those who have little comfort. Feeling comfortable is generally the criteria that determines likes and dislikes in our relationships. Often this “Comfort Zone” is the familiar perspective from which decisions are made.
Many people get the impression that the “Comfort Zone” is synonymous with being comfortable, a feeling of ease, safety or being in control. Well, isn’t that the state most of us are striving for in our relationships, with our children and in life? So why are we continually encouraged to get OUT of our “Comfort Zone”? An entire army of new-age-motivators is championing the idea of breaking through it? It does seem a bit counterintuitive having to leave a state that seems so comfortable?
The “Comfort Zone” is one of those phrases that have permeated our vernacular and is regularly misapplied. The “Comfort Zone” has a multitude of applications and specifically comes in handy, when we want to blame those who are lazy, reluctant or resistant to change. Often “feeling UNcomfortable” is used to make excuses for not wanting to shift. Many people fall into the “Comfort Zone Trap” under the illusion, that remaining within its confines feels comfortable and the thought of venturing outside is potentially risky business.
Contrary to popular belief, our “Comfort Zone” is NOT a place of COMFORT. Only the predictability of familiar feelings keeps us under the illusion that we are in a comfortable place. We hold on to this false sense of security and reject the Unknown as unsafe. In reality, operating within the restraints of our Comfort Zone causes great DIS-comfort, often resulting in DIS-ease. We opt for, “safe, certain and stuck” and are utterly surprised when this resistant behavior manifests itself as illness. Quantum physics teaches, that we either grow and thrive, or wither and die. We must progress, or we enter into a state of atrophy and let our potential waste away! Talk about discomfort…?
Interestingly enough, the longer we become accustomed to a feeling of discomfort, the more we tend to tolerate it. Ironically we find that people choose to live in continuous emotional pain, rather than facing the unpredictability of the Unknown. We are so comfortable with our discomfort that we let the possibility of a resolution escape, in favor of what feels familiar to us. Think about what keeps you inside your “Comfort Zone”.
Just because something feels familiar, doesn’t mean that it is the optimal choice. Observe yourself when choosing comfortable over possible. Children unconsciously absorb their parent’s behavior like a sponge. How would you like to see your child develop; free from limitations and constraints or confined within their (Dis)-Comfort Zone?
Just food for thought, Ananda – Blissfully Yours, RayBella
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