2012 has generated momentous interest throughout the world; we unquestionably have entered unprecedented times. This New Year is fraught with expectations, predictions, uncertainty and with that… a lot of fear. The circulating rumors are enough to stop us in our tracks before we even get started. Have you ever noticed how easy it is to slip into “making up stories” based on hearsay, disinformation or half-truth? It appears that the media is doing its very best to keep us nervous, worried and frightened. In light of this, it is imperative to expand our capacity to distinguish facts from interpretations and to recognize what influences our perception of reality.
The same is true for relationships. The second Essential introduces “Accessing Clarity” as the ability to have an unobstructed perspective to see things as they “are” vs., as they “may appear to be”. It is important to understand that all experiences, beliefs and conditioning, as well as our “perceived version” of events, influences what seems real to us. Our past has created a unique personal database from which we draw conclusions and make decisions.
How often do you fabricate stories regarding what you have heard or seen? When people are emotionally involved with someone it may be difficult to distinguish facts from interpretations. It is easy to drift into inventing stories, when unhealed wounds of the past contribute to a distorted picture of the present reality. Just because a man has betrayed you, doesn’t mean that every man will. Conversely, high expectations based upon positive past memories may set the benchmark in a new relationship beyond a mere mortals reach. A lost love is often held on the highest pedestal and used for comparison, especially when the unpleasant experiences have been unconsciously filtered out to support our story.
Assumptions are the leeches of any relationship. Our interpretations define who we are being in the present. If nothing has meaning except the meaning we give it, then we can choose to look beyond our stories. One child may start to walk before its first birthday and another takes fourteen months… in the long run it doesn’t mean a thing… unless we give it meaning. A person who is quiet and introverted can also be interpreted as withdrawn or arrogant. Think of all the energy and stress that goes into making up stuff! So just be clear that the meaning you give things or events is giving birth to the story. By seeing what really is, you are putting your mind’s “itty-bitty-shitty-committee” to rest in order to become an objective observer of any given situation.
Just food for thought, Ananda – Blissfully Yours, RayBella
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