Dear Aunty Tina, My husband is not thrilled with the arrangement of having our baby sleep in our bed. What can I do to help the situation?
Just like many things that a couple should discuss before having a baby, the sleeping arrangement is an important one. There are many different theories and practices about family sleeping arrangements, neither one is better than the other. The question is, which one is right for you and your family. By nature we are tribal so snuggling up with the pack is instinctual. If you do want to co-sleep with your baby and your husband isn’t protesting too much, I think the beds that work best are the ones that have a co-sleeper extension. You can roll your baby over into their cozy corner and even put a bolster between you and your baby if you would like.
I also recommend foam mattresses that don’t reverberate the movement of the moment. If you can afford to upgrade, a king size bed may also help the situation so everyone has enough room. It is important to speak to your husband and remind him that the situation is temporary but something you feel is necessary for you and the baby. However, it is also important that he feels he is heard and not feeling the third wheel in his own bed. Hopefully your child will let you know when he/she is ready to sleep by themselves, as it can be challenging to wean a child away from their parent’s bed. One way, which seems successful, is to place a small bed/cradle close to your bed and gradually migrate it to their own room.